Have you ever felt a flicker of desire—an impulse to create, to love, or to live more fully—only to watch it fade before it ever takes root? In this blog, we’ll explore why that happens.
Desire is a divine force moving through us—an invitation from Spirit to step into our fullest expression. Yet so often, we block it, consciously or unconsciously, before it even has a chance to bloom. Like weeds in a garden, resistance, conditioning, and fear can choke out our desires at the root. But what if we could learn to clear the way? What if we could recognize and release the blocks that keep us from reclaiming our deepest longings?
Let’s begin with a reminder: desire is sacred. It’s the pulse of Spirit moving within us—the impulse of Life itself, calling us forward to express ourselves fully, creatively, and lovingly. Desire lives in the present moment. It invites us to show up as the unique beings we are, each one of us a miraculous expression of Spirit having an experience through this body.
Desire is the first spark. It’s the seed even before intention forms—long before goals and strategies. We feel it deep in our bellies, and it lights up our hearts.
But all too often, our conscious and unconscious habits shut it down—like weeds strangling a seed before it has a chance to take root.
Why do we suppress our desires? Because we’ve been conditioned not to feel them. As children, we were profoundly dependent on our parents, confusing them with God. When they inevitably failed to meet our needs, our young minds could only assume that we were the problem—that something must be wrong with us or with the thing we desired. And so began a lifelong pattern of mistrusting, minimizing, or shaming our desires.
We carry that pattern into adulthood, unconsciously repeating the cycle—until we awaken to a powerful truth: our parents aren’t God. We are. We are Spirit—God, the Universe—at a local address, having a deeply personal and sacred experience through this body.
If we don’t allow ourselves to feel desire, life becomes hit-or-miss. We might manifest some of what we want—but often miss the things we yearn for most.
The “weeds” that block our desires can be understood as resistance. Resistance arises when we don’t accept life as it is in the present moment. We dig in: “I don’t like this. I won’t do it. It shouldn’t be this way.” Resistance often manifests as emotional or physical discomfort—frustration, depression, judgment, comparison, numbness. Some of it is conscious, much of it isn’t.
But there’s good news: when we stay curious about how resistance shows up in our lives, we can begin to melt it—physically, emotionally, and energetically.
The Body Knows What to Do
One of the fastest and most joyful ways to move through resistance is to move the body. But not just any movement—we need healing, somatic movement that creates new pathways. What might happen if you let your body move freely to a favorite song, without your mind dictating what looks “right”? This kind of intuitive movement can reconnect you to your inner flow, creating space for desire to root and grow.
Saying Yes and Saying No
When someone asks you for help or invites you to do something, do you respond instantly—yes or no—without pausing to check in with what you truly want? Quick responses often come from conditioning. We’ve been trained to say or do certain things to feel accepted and loved. What becomes possible when you pause before saying yes? You might reconnect with authenticity and choice.
Feeling All the Feels
We’re often afraid of our emotions, so we distract ourselves—scrolling, binge-watching, eating, drinking, shopping, over-exercising. What are your go-to distractions when fear or loneliness arises?
When we avoid feeling our feelings, we live from the head—stuck in to-do lists and surface living. But if we lean into our emotions with curiosity and courage, we find clarity on the other side: a sense of what we truly want, and the power to manifest it. Avoiding pain means we also avoid joy. To unlock both, we must befriend our emotions.
Giving the Universe a Deadline
Another way we block desire is through attachment to timing. We want what we want right now! We’ve all felt that impatient urgency. But when we force things to happen on our timeline, we risk digging up the very seeds we’ve planted. Trusting in divine timing is an act of surrender—and an essential part of desire coming to fruition.
Forgiving Ourselves and Others
Could forgiveness be the space where desire blooms again? Where there is unresolved hurt, resentment, or anger, desire struggles to grow. Forgiveness clears space within us for vibrant health, loving relationships, creative flow, and abundance. Without it, we may find ourselves disconnected from desire altogether.
Desire is sacred. It’s how Spirit guides us toward our fullest, most joyful expression. When we learn to recognize and clear the weeds that block it, we return to a life of possibility, purpose, and passion.
Ready to start clearing the weeds from your own garden of desire?
If this message resonates, perhaps it’s time. My upcoming workshop Weeding the Garden is an invitation to remember what’s been buried, and reclaim it—together. When you feel the pull, you’ll know🌱 Click here to learn more and register 🌱
Let’s tend to your inner garden—together.