Tell Me What You Want (What you really, really want!)

When someone asks you what you REALLY want, does your brain freeze?

Or do you hear yourself coming up with an acceptable, appropriate answer that feels a bit like ticking a box? Like …

•  I want a loving relationship
•  I want more money
•  I want a nicer house
•  I want a better job
•  I want to be thinner
•  I want world peace.

It’s not that we don’t want these things per se, but why we want them and how we want to experience them is a HUGE factor in how it all plays out. 

Many of us are stuck between a place of ‘perpetual want’ – yearning for a bigger, better experience of life, but we get in a tangle of confusion … our minds are caught up in what we think we “should” want based on many variables … which ones do you identify with?

• What my parents want for me, based on their own upbringing and family history
• What the culture values (the perfect family, relationship, body, diet, career)
• What is deemed spiritually appropriate to say
• What would be “good” for my family, my relationship
• What I have always done
• What is generally expected of my gender
• What my bank account says I can have
• So so so so so so many other confusing messages that have us stuck in our heads, creating so much inner conflict that the Universe really can’t deliver anything but more conflict and confusion

So, what if we can just stop all that?

What if we can get clear on the difference between “I think I want…” to “My heart desires” …? What if we could sense the difference between those two places?

It can be kinda tricky.

At least it’s tricky at first, without a teacher/friend to help you recognize when you are in your head, or playing small, or numbing yourself to your true desires because it’s just not safe to express them … Or it just sounds impossible (so what’s the point of wanting anything?)

The Truth is we are born to desire and want experiences that feel fulfilling and joyful. It’s the whole point of living …to do, be, have, express that which our own unique spiritual blueprint designed us for. 

But, true desires get caught in the tangle of old rules and we can’t see through the log jam of generational/cultural/family/financial pressures. We need witnesses to see what’s happening and helping hands to pull us through the mire of conflicting messages.

And then there are the faith traditions that make “desire” a bad thing. To want something is somehow unspiritual, selfish and unhealthy, encouraging people to become desire-less, which is confusing desire with attachment. There is a BIG difference. But once again, that log jam can be hard to see through. 

All these challenges and quite a few more (I will save for future blogs) are the reason I designed a two-part workshop series called The Power of Desire.  I want to share and explore the ways we define the words “desire” and “want” and where we are caught in a quagmire of tired, old stories that really have nothing to do with us. 

I want to clear up that log jam. And connect you to what it feels like to experience a “true desire”. And understand how we can experience “true desires” moment to moment and find a more graceful way of living our lives, as we grow and change and the world constantly changes around us.

I know it’s a tall order. And what I know is that it can be SO fun and SO freeing to experience ourselves in a completely different way, and to allow that limited view of ourselves to expand and grow with more grace and ease.

 

Here’s a little more info … check it out … I’d love to have you join me.

https://biggerlifenow.com/the-power-of-desire-program/

Feel free to ask questions … I am here to answer them!